Choose a career that’s right for you
Q. I have a lot of friends who graduated. I’m a senior this year. My friends are pretty much all going to college in the next weeks. My mom keeps saying how next year I’ll be doing the same thing. But I want to go to cosmetology school. I went to tech the last two years and I’m good at it. Plus, I love it. I don’t want to disappoint my mom. I’d be the first person in our family to go to college. But it’s just not for me. How do I tell her? – 17-year-old
Mary Jo’s Response: Your mom wants the best for you. Unless you talk with her, she may not know how much you want to study cosmetology. I suggest you find a time when she’s not busy and be honest. It may sound simple, but the best way to connect with her is with respect and transparency.
Some people devalue trade schools, but I do not agree. The key to your life success lies with you. Selecting a path you love makes work so much better. If your mom knows how much this means to you, she may be able to see your point of view. Your dream is a good one. I’ve had the same hair stylist for decades. She helped me adjust to chemo – I resembled Charlie Brown when bald and my hair came back tight and wiry. She was more than a cosmetologist for me; she was my support and empowered me to be resilient.
Your life is yours. Be respectful and honor your mom’s concerns. Listen to her. Then, explain how much you want to follow your own path, with kindness. I believe you’ll make the right choice.
Peer Educator Alumni Response: Some of us faced similar challenges when we graduated. One of us owns a very successful salon and feels happy and fulfilled. Not everyone should go to college. You do you.
Q. I’m a rising junior. What do I need to do to prepare for after I graduate? If I want to go to college or a trade school, how do I make that happen? Or is it too early for me to start thinking about this? – 16-year-old
Mary Jo’s Response: You’re wise to consider your plans for after graduation now. It’s not too early at all. Your first step is to decide which path you’d like to follow. Both college and trade schools have merit; explore your passion. Share at home. Your high school guidance counselor is skilled at mentoring students like you. Schedule a session and share your concerns.
Once you’ve made your choice, create a plan and follow it through. If you elect to go to college, you will need to consider taking SATs or ACTs (although not all colleges now require them – your counselor will know). Look at financial aid, scholarships, and tuition options for either path. Make a list of possible schools. Keep your grades up and be active in extracurriculars. Connect with adults who can guide you and serve as references when you apply.
This will be a busy and fruitful year for you. Take it one step at a time, focusing on your goals. You’ve got this. Good luck.
Have a question? Send it to Dr. Mary Jo Podgurski’s email podmj@healthyteens.com.